words by Sandra TonkinsonWords have power. Sticks and stones can break bones but words can break our spirit. Or make it.
Words are vibrational and can hit a certain resonance that radiates out as light or a heavy stone from deep within. Given that we are mostly water and water is a supreme carrier of information and frequency, being discerning with our words – to ourselves and others – feels like the kind and right thing to do.
You know, some people are really good with lyrics and remember every song title? I’m not one of those people. I love music. For me, it is profound and a necessary part of life. Often I need to see the lyrics in black and white to really hear the words. Looking at the music I grew up with, especially what I listened to after a break-up (when I really need music), and while a lot of the lyrics are poetic, much of it is pretty depressing. A lot of beautiful music, art, and writing have been forged from the broken pieces of the heart. I get it. Wallowing in pain may be necessary, feeling it in its full glorious power and force, to own it, to sit in it, to understand it, and finally to release it. Not to deny it. Not to mythologize it. By the way, if you have not listened to Love and Rockets’ debut album Seventh Dream of Teenage Heaven…
Is it odd to find an article in a magazine called It’s All Well + Good about pain and heartbreak?
It’s All Well + Good Magazine is about sharing positive-impact stories but not because we blindly see only the good in the world. We see and face challenges in life and we choose to focus on the next step – what do we do about it? What are people around the world doing about it? What are options and choices that we are currently blind/blinkered to?
We choose our stories carefully because we feel a responsibility for what we put out there, the vibrational landscape we are painting. We want to re-language how we perceive our reality, which many would agree is holographic anyhow. We create it. We mould it. So what do you want to create? How do you want to script your life?
Re-languaging what we say to ourselves is underrated. We are taught to be kind and well-mannered, part of how to behave and be acceptable in society. What about our self-talk? What have you adopted as your own philosophy or judgment of yourself? What conversations are all the different roles you play having with each other? What sayings, idioms, or quotes do you always use? Language can be seductive and sexy and many a wordsmith has crafted evocative imagery and compelling copy. I challenge you to really feel what these words mean to you. To you now, and in every moment. Perhaps they are less applicable to you now? Perhaps they resonate less with what you feel and what you want to feel? Is it time to let them go and re-language your life?
As humankind moves up the Maslow Hierarchy of Needs, as we move from survive mode to thrive, and our understanding shifts beyond tolerance to compassion and acceptance, I feel many of the old sayings that represent an earlier more fear-based time will and need to fade away. A few come to mind – “an eye for an eye” …. “life is short…” …. “I’m dying to [fill in the blank]….”that’s all well + good…”
The world is not perfect. It is imperfectly perfect. The world is doing a lot better than the doomsday media would like us to believe. People are doing good deeds around the world every single day. We just do not necessarily know about it. Heroes/heroines act because they are compelled to, not because they think they are heroes/heroines. Heroic acts do not need to be big or splashy. Life itself is large! We are all heroes/heroines in our own stories, and often in other people’s stories as well. Let us celebrate that! Let us celebrate what we are all doing day to day, moment to moment, that makes a difference in our lives, and ultimately in the fabric of the universe.
Languaging and being present is not a seasonal thing; it is an every-moment thing. However, the energy of Spring, with its newness and beginnings, it is a great time to spring clean and declutter not only your physical space but your internal space. In Feng Shui, we suggest fixing what’s broken or tossing out what cannot be fixed or is no longer useful. What about your vocabulary? Words have power. Harness it.